Have you ever met someone who gave you an instant vibe that made you instantly want to make friends with them? Or know a person who gives life to a room the moment he or she steps in? Someone who seemingly knows everyone like they were friends since childhood? If you do, then you have met a charming person.
Charm is a quality or characteristic that attracts people’s attention, generates admirationand conjures fascination. A charming person is more than just a friendly persona, a smiling face or an agreeable personality. There is a whole lot more than just general attractiveness. If you fancy being a charming person, then read on for some tips on how to improve your social charm.
Admittedly, it can be difficult to show genuine interest about something you are really not into, but what you can do is devote your attention to the person, or persons, you are speaking with. When you meet a certain person, you need to figure out what is the most interesting topic about him or her that you would like to know. No need to be interested about their whole life, but at least display interest on bits of their life, like hobbies, careers, interests, or maybe the relationships he or she is involved in. Make the person you are interacting with believe that you understand and totally get how they feel about certain thing, even if you don’t agree. At least you have shown respect.
Show A Little Bit of Vulnerability
Show and display the humble and vulnerable side of you. Showing vulnerability is a way to prove that you are confident about yourself, and are comfortable in your own skin. In addition, it also makes you far more reachable, agreeable and relatable. Everyone has gone through some trials, and it is comforting to know that they are not alone. Never put yourself up on a pedestal, or boast about your achievements. Charming people don’t win people over by bragging about their accomplishments; rather, they portray themselves as perfectly normal human beings.
Be Well Versed in the Finer Things
Education is important. Whether it is style guidelines, like how to correctly tie a tie, or something more advanced, like quality in accessories, a well rounded person will always stand out. Using fashion as an example, have you ever noticed someone because of their fashion? Sure, you have. As you are analyzing their outfit you realize that you have the same style of clothing, but you feel that they wear it better. Take a look at the small details. Is their watch a $20 faux leather or is it a $200 real leather watch? What about the other accessories they have? Do they have real gold and diamonds or are they look alikes? That is where the education comes in. More information on what to buy or how to act will set you apart from others.
Use Your Sense of Touch and Body Language
Touch and body language strongly affects the psyche of a person receiving it. Psychologically, touch and body language elicits emotion and conveys subtle information. These are amazing ways to demonstrate cues that, subconsciously, the other party will subtly analyze and understand. Utilize this to reinforce your genuine interest and friendliness. Just imagine the difference between greeting someone with a simple, “Happy Birthday,” compared to greeting them with a smile, a friendly word, and a warm embrace.
Showcase Your Physical Assets
Being charming does not just mean being attractive intangibly, it also incorporating how pleasing you are visually. Charming people are not afraid to highlight their physically attractive traits, but they do not talk about it, nor do they open a topic that leads to it. A pleasing look will make you be perceived as someone trustworthy, kind and honest. So go ahead and flaunt your assets: wear beautiful dresses, put your best makeup on, and wear that gorgeous golden necklace that will leave your audience captivated by your natural beauty.
Of course, you need to be friendly, and friendly in a manner that breaks the ice and melts initial awkwardness away. One good tip to do this is by cracking a joke upon starting a conversation, or even simply smiling while introducing yourself. Act like you are long lost friends, and do not show any sign of discomfort, because those negative vibes can feed into the other person. During interaction, make sure your body language is welcoming, relaxed, and respectful. Upon making introductions, greet them as if they are the most important person in the room.
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